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Howdy to Start Fun Sexy Conversations with Women - Do this in the First 60 Seconds or You're Toast

Today I want to talk about the most CRITICAL time period when meeting a woman.

And when I say meeting a woman, we both understand that this is about a woman you find attractive, and want to get to know.

The time period I'm talking about is the first 60 seconds.  But, and this is important, the clock starts ticking BEFORE you even approach her!

 

The Importance of the First Impression

There are some so called 'dating experts' who will tell you that you can pickup women wearing old t-shirts and old ratty blue jeans. 

Every time I hear about that it gets me madder than a wet hen, because I know that guy is not only FULL OF CRAP, I know he probably doesn't get laid by hot women without paying for it.

What's worse is guys will believe this kind of bogus information and it makes attracting a woman that much HARDER for them.

Look, the first impression you make has a HUGE impact on your success in just starting a conversation with a woman, so why not use that to your ADVANTAGE?

Think about this, when you see a woman on the street, you make an almost INSTANT decision if you want to meet her or not.  You know this is true.

Heck you've probably had a friend say something like "I'd sleep with her" as soon as he LAID EYES on a girl he thought was cute. 

 

Women Do It Too!

Now a woman doesn't make the decision to sleep with you when she first sees you, but she does make a decision on whether she thinks you are a COOL GUY or not.

This decision will result in her either thinking "I'd like to find out more" or her thinking "Oh no, how can I make him go away."

And she makes this decision RIGHT AWAY!  But she makes it for VERY DIFFERENT reasons than a guy does.  For a man, it's almost completely visual.  It's how cute she is and what her body is like.

 

It's Not What You Were Born With

The good news is, things like your physical looks, and your age don't really matter.  That's not so important for women.

You've seen this before, gorgeous women with ugly overweight guys.  It happens all the time.  Beauty and the beast is more truth than fiction

How do those guys do it?  They demonstrate the attractive QUALITIES that women find IRRESISTABLE.  Keep reading, you'll get what I'm talking about as we go on.

Women's Secret Signals

Also if she is with her girlfriends, at least one of them will see you LONG BEFORE you get close enough to deliver your 'opener', and she'll communicate this to the other girls before you open your mouth.

She'll do this with very subtle SIGNALS to her friends such as moving her EYES, a tiny NOD of her head, or a LOOK on her face she'll hold only for a moment.

If you don't believe me, do this experiment.  Go to a nightclub where there are a lot of hot women.  Get a comfortable seat, and watch when guys are approaching a group of women.  Ideally you'd watch the same girls for awhile.

Notice how when some guys approach, the girls BOX THEM OUT before they get there.  And how other times they will seem to OPEN UP for the guy, like they were expecting him!

If you are feeling bold, go up and ASK THEM if they do this.  They'll laugh since they've been busted, and will tell you it's true.  (hint: this is a good way to get into a group, since it shows you are a socially aware guy)

 

You Can Predict Success

Now pay attention to how the guy did his approach, and then his result.  It won't take you long, and you'll begin to predict whether the girls will welcome him or treat him like he's a homeless guy looking for spare change.

Listen, when I work with a client, and I tell him to approach a woman, I can tell you in the next three seconds if he's going to be a success or not!

All I have to do is look at him take those first few steps and I know.

Now you're probably wondering what clues me in, so I'll mention a couple of the things that stick out like a sore thumb when you know what to look for.

Attention Walmart Shoppers

Fashion is important to women!  Now, if you want to think it's silly, that's your choice.  The reality is women love fashion no matter what you think about it.

But I can promise you this... if you dress like you get your fashion advacie from Walmart, you're only going to date women who shop at Walmart. 

Listen, I could write an entire article on the importance of shoes, but I'll save that for another time.  For now, just carve this idea in stone and never forget it... women NOTICE how you are dressed!

How you dress INSTANTLY tells her a couple things:

  - What you THINK of yourself (your self image)
  - If she can introduce you to her friends and not be EMBARRASSED
  - If you are MAN WHO DATES WOMEN LIKE HER

 

Slow Down!

If I see a guy approach a women and he's moving like he can't wait for it to be over... I know it ALREADY is over for him.

Cool guys move slowly.  Think about it, you ever see James Bond jumping and jerking around like he's got ants in his pants?  HELL NO!  Even when a guy pulls a gun on him he moves slowly.

Now, I realize that's Hollywood, but I use it as an example that every guy knows.  Now watch the guys that are GOOD with women and you'll see the SAME thing.  They move slowly and deliberately.

Moving quickly is like a giant neon sign that tells a woman you are NOT A GUY WHO HAS WOMEN in his life, because it's OBVIOUS you're out of your comfort zone.

If you understand how attraction works for a woman, you know that she's looking for a guy who has OTHER WOMEN in his life. 

That's why women are attracted to a guy with a hot girlfriend.  It is an ATTRACTION TRIGGER for them.

So when you move deliberately and slow down around women, it says to them that you are a guy who is AROUND WOMEN LIKE HER all the time, so she will at least talk with you for a while to find out if you are a guy she should be attracted to.

So here's something you can practice EVERY DAY.  Pay attention to your movements, and then begin to slow them down.  Walk slower, turn your head slower, and make all your movements slower.

Notice how you feel AND how people react to you.

 

It's Not What You Say. Or Is It...

My experience working with men in workshops is that a big part of APPROACH ANXIETY comes from not knowing what to say or do.

But there is an irony in all of this, because what you say is ALMOST completely UNIMPORTANT to women! 
 
If you don't have a "cool guy" first impression, the chances that you'll change a woman's mind by what you SAY is very very slim.

But, for a guy, having something to say boosts their confidence, and that results in them WALKING UP WITH CONFIDENCE.

This is the great irony of the "opening line", the only reason it works is that by having one, the guy will be more confident, and because he approachs with confidence, the woman FINDS THAT ATTRACTIVE.

I spend a lot of time teaching guys how to create material from their own life to open with, since when they have that, they are CONFIDENT and COMFORTABLE when they talk to women. 

Usually within two months, they drop using it, because they have figured out it's NOT what they SAY that gets the ladies attracted.

 

Knowing Exactly What To Do

This one can make a HUGE difference.  I've got over 10 years of experience and have approached thousands and have dated hundreds of smart, fun, cute women.

I've been in every kind of situation you could EVER IMAGINE, and have figured out exactly what the best thing to do is in that moment.

And what I've discovered is, that simply by DEMONSTRATING what to do, guys get it, and their confidence SKYROCKETS, because it's no longer an unknown factor in the equation.

And you already know how women can sense that confidence BEFORE you even talk to her.

In fact, I've seen guys go from being literally terrified to approach a woman, to talking to over 30 groups of women the NEXT day, simply because he now KNOWS WHAT TO DO.

I won't lie to you and say he got laid that night, and he still made mistakes, but for him this was the KEY ELEMENT that changed his ability to meet women.

 

Make It Easy On Yourself

Learn how to make a first impression such that women WANT TO MEET YOU, and not one that blows you out before you have a chance to open your mouth.

Think of it this way, you wouldn't go to a job interview looking like you just got done working on your car, and totally unprepared for any TEST they might give you, would you?

NO WAY!  If you want a kick ass job, you'll probably wear an EXPENSIVE suit, do RESEARCH on the company, bone up on your SKILLS required for that job, and even PRACTICE what you will say and do during the interview.

You want to walk in and make a KILLER first impression on whom ever you're going to talk with that day.  Meeting women is no different.

So if you want a kick ass woman in your life, why wouldn't you AT LEAST make the same kind of effort to make sure you leave nothing to chance.

The good news is, now there are resources you can use to QUICKLY and EASILY learn how to do this that weren't even available ten years ago.  But, it's up to you to take advantage of them. 

Now, go practice moving slowly!

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